Episode 2.15 Complaining About Your Crummy Week with Friends

One time Kaarina and I ate vegan ice cream bars on a beach in Victoria

I don’t know about you but I’m having a crummy week and I really didn’t feel like recording a minisode and Kaarina suggested that we could just chat about our crummy weeks instead so we did that. We talk about complaining, and cats, and roller derby, and barbershop, and teaching, and mentorship, and Glow, and just a whole bunch of things, and here are some links:

  • We talk a little bit about the pleasures of complaint, but did you know that brilliant feminist scholar Sara Ahmed has written extensively about the feminist complaint? I’ll probably do a whole minisode on this at some point, but in the meantime, you can start reading here.
  • Read this if you want to know more about the Toronto attack and the ideology behind it. Content warning for violence and misogyny.

  • If you would like to see my enormous chorus in action, here are our semi-finals and finals packages from Internationals in Vegas last year.

  • Kaarina mentions Notes from a Feminist Killjoy, which you should definitely read if you haven’t yet!

  • Great job. Now let’s all watch this trailer for Unfinished Song and cry.

The podcast theme song is “Mesh Shirt” by Mom Jeans off their album “Chub Rub.” Listen to the whole album here or learn more about them here. Follow me @hkpmcgregor, follow Kaarina @kaarinasaurus, and tweet about the podcast using #SecretFeministAgenda.

Secret Feminist Agenda is recorded on the traditional and unceded territories of the Squamish, Musqueam, and Tsleil-Waututh First Nations.

Episode 2.14 Pervert Evangelism with Carly Boyce

This week we’re continuing our “play” series by talking with sex radical, feelings-witch and facilitator Carly Boyce. Carly tells me what play means in kink communities, and then we delve into consent culture, queer family, the relationship between power and sex, and a whole lot more. Want to read more about any of these topics? Here are some links!

The podcast theme song is “Mesh Shirt” by Mom Jeans off their album “Chub Rub.” Listen to the whole album here or learn more about them here. Carly’s theme song is Loretta Lynn’s “Fist City.”

Secret Feminist Agenda is recorded on the traditional and unceded territories of the Squamish, Musqueam, and Tsleil-Waututh First Nations.

Episode 2.13 Politicizing Tragedy

This episode is just one big content warning. I’m talking about politicizing tragedy, and public mourning, and I touch on a lot of hard things and recent, awful events, including the Humboldt Broncos bus crash, the Quebec City Mosque shooting, the death of Coulten Boushie, as well as mass shootings and school shootings, cancer and suicide. If you’re not in the place to think about this stuff right now—including if the Humboldt Broncos crash impacted you personally—please please please tap out with my blessing. I’m going to talk about grief and politics and how they intersect, but if you’re grieving right now, you don’t owe me your attention.

“I want to be part of something bigger,” Celeste said. “There is so much hurt in this province in so many ways, particularly with the First Nations community. There is so much tragedy and affliction in this world and they don’t get the attention they deserve sometimes. I have no idea what this is going to look like, but I want to start a movement of some sort. People are hurting in this province with the whole Colten Boushie trial and it’s time that people reach out. From hurt can come good.”

The podcast theme song is “Mesh Shirt” by Mom Jeans off their album “Chub Rub.” Listen to the whole album here or learn more about them here. Kaarina’s theme song is “I Will” by Mitski. Follow me @hkpmcgregor, follow Kaarina @kaarinasaurus, and tweet about the podcast using #SecretFeministAgenda.

Secret Feminist Agenda is recorded on the traditional and unceded territories of the Squamish, Musqueam, and Tsleil-Waututh First Nations.

Episode 2.12 Getting Fucked Up on Learning (& Roller Derby) with Gillian Roberts

By popular request, and despite my personal disinclination towards sports, I’m finally talking about roller derby! With none other than brilliant and badass literature-scholar-slash-derby-player Gillian Roberts. After she very patiently explains to me what exactly roller derby is and how it differs from Whip It, we chat about women in sports, the link between hobbies and mental health, and why it’s good to keep learning new things, even (especially?) when you aren’t very good at them.

Here’s some stuff to read:

  • First off, here’s Gillian writing about roller derby as part of a whole, excellent series of posts about Women, Academia, and Sport on the feminist academic blog Hook and Eye (if you look carefully you may find a post by me in there!)
  • Here’s another post about roller derby and its complex relation to self-care: “Sometimes we hurt ourselves in order to protect ourselves. I believe this to be true—that hurting ourselves can be protection—but I don’t know how to talk about it, how to reconcile self-destruction with self-care.” CW in this one for eating disorders, mental illness, and self-harm. 
  • If you didn’t know what we were talking about vis-à-vis ice-dancing couples and heteronormativity, you can read up on Virtue and Moir here.
  • If you’d like to read a little more about trans women in derby, here’s a lovely starting point.
  • And finally, go find your derby name.

The podcast theme song is “Mesh Shirt” by Mom Jeans off their album “Chub Rub.” Listen to the whole album here or learn more about them here. Gillian’s theme song is “Cheated Hearts” by the Yeah Yeah Yeahs.

Secret Feminist Agenda is recorded on the traditional and unceded territories of the Squamish, Musqueam, and Tsleil-Waututh First Nations.

Episode 2.11 Emotional Burritos

It’s a short one this week folks, but don’t worry, the feelings/minute ratio is exceptionally high. This episode isn’t about playing–not even in the killjoy sense of being about losing. Actually, it’s kind of about being sad, but it’s also about friendship and forms of care and what to do when someone you love is sad. Recording it made me feel better, and if you’re sad, I hope it makes you feel better, too. Here are some links:

The podcast theme song is “Mesh Shirt” by Mom Jeans off their album “Chub Rub.” Listen to the whole album here or learn more about them here. Kaarina’s theme song is “I Will” by Mitski. Follow me @hkpmcgregor, follow Kaarina @kaarinasaurus, and tweet about the podcast using #SecretFeministAgenda.

Episode 2.10 Fighting All the Scary Bad Guys in Video Games With Clare Mulcahy

Our series on play continues with a very special episode, requested by our own Kaarina Mikalson. Clare Mulcahy is a scholar and a gentleman, but in her free time she likes to play video games, and more importantly she likes to talk to her friends about them. Lucky you, you’re all her friends now, so enjoy listening in.

  • Let’s start off with some facts about video game playing. This article is a few years old, but it lays out some important statistics, including just how many women are long-term gamers.
  • Speaking of misogyny in gaming, here’s an article about that time a game randomly assigned players’ avatars a gender, and men were not impressed.
  •  We talk about games as a helpful treatment for anxiety, and this article agrees: “For anyone who’s ever experienced anxiety, where every day tasks seem insurmountable and the only reward at the end of the path is another day living with your mental health issue, a fantasy world where plotlines are resolved is a pretty easy sell.”
  • Are you sold? Ready for some recommendations? We talk about Stardew Valley, Night in the WoodsYou Must Build a Boat, Broken Age, and Kingdom Rush: Frontiers. This is a great time to get into Stardew Valley, with the new multiplayer game on its way. Oh, and for any of you who arrived at this podcast by way of Witch, Please, you should know that the makers of Stardew Valley have a NEW MAGIC SCHOOL RPG coming soon!
  • Finally, if you would like to dive into the deep weirdness that is Monster Factory, we recommend beginning with the Final Pam.

The podcast theme song is “Mesh Shirt” by Mom Jeans off their album “Chub Rub.” Listen to the whole album here or learn more about them here. Clare’s theme song is the Hyrule Field Theme from The Legend of Zelda: Ocarina of Time.

Episode 2.9 Knowing Your Limits

Photograph by Christopher M. Turbulence Gosh, first failure and now limits, I’m just a barrel of fucking laughs, aren’t I? Anyway, this week I’m talking/thinking (talk-thinking) (thalking?) about both feeling out my personal limits — in terms of energy, emotional labour, etc. — and feeling out my limits in relation to others, especially where my whiteness leads me to believe that I can know and contain all the world’s truths. I obviously didn’t arrive at any of this thinking alone, so let me cite my sources:

  • First off, shout out Vancouver’s Growing Room festival for working to build important space for feminist conversations.
  • I cite the brilliance of Ijeoma Oluo, so I’m also going to tell you go to buy her book about race, which I’m halfway through and which is required reading for any white ladies out there who’d like to be less shit at talking about race, or to women of colour who want resources for talking to your white friends who are shit at talking about race.
  • Third, my thinking about limits specifically came from Gwen Benaway’s contributions to a panel at this festival. You can start with Gwen’s answers to the Proust Questionnaire and then once you’re in love you can order her poetry here or here.
  • Oh, and I also read from this thread by Nicole Cliffe about her friendship with Daniel Ortberg. So while you’re at it why don’t you read this stunning interview he gave about coming out as trans? Oh, and his new book. So many great books! We are truly blessed!

The podcast theme song is “Mesh Shirt” by Mom Jeans off their album “Chub Rub.” Listen to the whole album here or learn more about them here. Kaarina’s theme song is “I Will” by Mitski. Follow me @hkpmcgregor, follow Kaarina @kaarinasaurus, and tweet about the podcast using #SecretFeministAgenda.